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This is where submission comes in.


You still have a mission but you have to accept that the God who made you a woman gave it to you with the intention of it being subject to your husband and his vision.
This often annoys ladies and exhilarates men because we don’t realise what submission means.

1 Peter 3:1
“Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives”

For women: Recognise the power of equality. If you are not equal, no one would be asked to submit. It would have said “Know your place”.

Submission is an access to power. It says the women “won their men over”.

For men: If something is subject to you, it means you are responsible. That means it doesn’t take effect until you act on it. Eve ate the fruit, nothing happened; Adam ate the fruit and the entire earth and heaven was affected. You have the power. A submitted woman has access to that power with the backing of God and Angels anytime of the the day. 1 Corinthians 11:10.

Men, It also means the vision of heaven for the life of your wife is your responsibility. You MUST ensure she achieves it.



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Most marriages are made or broken on what has been referred to as pressure points. We’ll try to touch the three commonest ones.

Check out Couple’s Connect… 7 for number one pressure point.


2. FINANCES. My money, your money or our money.

This wasn’t always an issue because women used to be fully dependent on their men and the men were generally honourable enough to be responsible for their homes.

With the shift in paradigm to double income marriages, the challenge surfaces whether to merge finances or not. But that’s not the real problem.

The real problem is that with double income came double vision. Everyone knows that a person experiencing double vision is in trouble but we find a way to rationalise double vision in our marriages.


If your marriage is not bound to a single vision, there is no way your finances would be one and there will never be peace. Whatever “progress” you each make will only pull you further apart because you will begin to see less need for each other and the more money you earn the more distrust will grow.

This is where submission comes in.


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Most marriages are made or broken on what has been referred to as pressure points. We’ll try to touch the three commonest ones.

1. COMMUNICATION doesn’t mean talking. It means sending AND receiving information in a way that facilitates a goal. The goal could be a romantic relationship or marriage or family. The critical part is that the information is received and there is feed back and you know what the other person is thinking.
Therefore “talking to” each other is not enough, you have to “talk with”. Ensure there is a connection.

It’s been said that Communication is 10% words, 30% tone, 60% body language. So, you can say the right words and still fail to communicate.


Communication for men is about the destination or results and for women, it’s about the journey or the experience. Neither one is wrong  they’re just two sides of the same coin. Understanding the difference, rather than trying to correct them is a choice you need to make if you want a happy marriage.


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Avoid the unnecessary pressure of trying to have a marriage like those who’ve been at it for 5 years and above when you just got married last month. It leads to frustration, finger pointing and unwarranted second thoughts. Statistically, most marriages go through their worst relationship stress in the first two years.


Recommened Book: The first two years of happily ever after –  Ed Wheats.


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We all pray for life partners and when  they come, we try to make them life servants or even slaves. Our thoughts are dominated by what they do or fail to do for us rather than working alongside them to fulfill the divine destiny for which heaven ensured we are together. That is an unfortunate mistake.



Heart Attacks, Hot Water and the Oriental Tea Tradition.

Hi all. The last time someone posted this and I responded a little, they said I was speaking too much medical grammar and sounded like Obahiagbon. Well, I took time to explain now o.

The post was this:
HEART ATTACKS & HOT WATER:A very good article which takes two minutes to read. Heart Attacks And Drinking Warm WaterThis is a very good article. Not only about the warm water after your meal, but about Heart Attacks. The Chinese and Japanese drink hot tea with their meals, not cold water, maybe it is time we adopt their drinking habit while eating.For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you. It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this ‘sludge’ reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal.Common Symptoms Of Heart Attack…A serious note about heart attacks – You! should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting . Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line.You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack. Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms. 60% of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let’s be careful and be aware. The more we know, the better chance we could survive..A cardiologist says if everyone who reads this post shares it to 10 people, you can be sure that we’ll save at least one life. Read this & Send to a friend.

So this is my answer:
I respect the part about fatty acids causing heart attacks and the other info about heart attacks are also correct.
But the other stuff are not correct.
Food, whether fats, oils, or carbohydrates, are digested faster in a liquefied state and so the body liquefies everything first. Absorbtion of carbohydrates begins in the mouth, I’m sure you don’t know that, and continues to a large extent in the stomach, though little absorbtion takes place in the stomach. Digestion of proteins begins in the stomach, no absorption in the stomach.
Digestion of fat begins in the first part of the small intestine, on the average of 4 hours after the meal was consumed. And then all the digested products are absorbed simultaneously via different pathways and channels in the middle and later portions of the small intestine.
So that gist that fats are absorbed faster when solid is just gist.
As for the Chinese, they drink hot tea all the time, whether with or without a meal as a means of coping with their cold weather. And it might interest you to note that their meals do not contain as much fat as is found in the meals of other cultures.
So it’s not the hot tea that prevents heart attacks for them but their low fat diet!

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We don’t want to take the time to court for a number of reasons and when we get married we skip straight to becoming parents which means we never really had the time to get to know each other or establish a relationship as a romantic couple at all. Why are we then so surprised to be having it rough in many Christian marriages? Most of our marriages are dominated by our concern for our children rather than for the one with whom we are raising the children. We forget that the children are visitors and would soon leave.