Hi. Still on this series however, we are now looking at the common factors that people consider as markers to begin dating. In the last installment, we checked out #1. If you missed it, try this link http://wp.me/p6rlMY-9M
WHEN SHOULD I START DATING?
#2: Tick Tock… Biological Clock.
Ever heard the expression, “Biological clock is ticking”? It’s common amongst women because of the awareness of menopause and it’s attendant cessation of reproductive capacity. Biological clock alarm doesn’t bother men so much although it’s becoming increasingly clear that some birth anomalies are associated with increased paternal age.
In order to circumvent all these, people strive to marry early in life. While I support marrying as early as is healthy for you, for this and other reasons, here’s what is really bothering most people when they think of the Biological Clock – DESPERATION.
Committing to a relationship out of desperation is really unfortunate because anything done out of desperation is fraught with errors. Even if you date the best guy in the world, if it was out of desperation, it would still be wrong and it will go wrong.
Desperation is panic. Any action taken in moments of desperation or panic only has one good outcome, survival. That’s the only good that will come out of a relationship based on panic… survival. Such a relationship will never fulfil what it was meant to do.
It is also quite common that after finally getting into a relationship due to panic, a time comes when the panic loses its edge and the participants begin to realise that they didn’t really need to be in the relationship in the first place and, guess what happens… they break it off. Unfortunately, rather than teach them a lesson, it worsens the desperation and the cycle begins all over again.
The only way not to be caught in this pointless and painful cycle is to not be desperate from the get go. Learn now to trust that God has a plan for you and that plan includes someone special who will cherish your company and love you completely.
The only thing to be desperate for is for a good marriage. This will drive you to learn what you need to learn to make a good marriage your reality. Don’t be desperate to be in a relationship, you would amount to a beggar and as it is commonly said, a beggar has no choice. You would end up settling for less than what you deserve… less than what God has for you.