I am confident someone is learning something from this series. There’s much to apply to your relationship if you’re in one or this can be a source material to help others you come across.
We’re still discussing the concept of Maturity.
Can you imagine a person more self centred than a baby? As far as a baby is concerned, the whole world revolves around it and exists only to fulfill its wants and desires. I’m sure you’ve noticed that babies don’t care to share.
Mothers would relate that their babies don’t care how tired or busy they are; they just want what they want and want it right away.
This tendency in babies is not actually malicious; it’s just one of the basic instincts that make sure they survive that stage of life.
Many young children have been given, perhaps packet of treats and then asked to give one little piece out of the pack to the same person who just handed them the packet and they refuse. Most times, when we see such, we laugh at the child’s short sightedness. It might still be considered amusing and cute for a young child to demonstrate some selfishness but it becomes less and less funny as the child grows up. It is expected that as we grow, we leave childish tendencies behind. It is therefore totally unacceptable to see such a character trait in a grown up.
You make no effort to reach out a helping hand to folks who might be in need but expect folks to rush to your aid and you even get upset when they don’t. That’s self-centeredness. Some would say, “I know I don’t reach out so I don’t get upset when others don’t drop by but I don’t need them in my time of trouble, I’ll sort myself out.” When we say this, we actually think we are being fair and just but it’s actually self-centeredness disguised as whatever you wanna call that. If you have a belly button, then you’re connected to someone; so stop fighting it. We were designed for autonomy, not independence.
God designed us to connect. We need that connection to be whole. I’m sure you’ll say Jesus is the only one who can make anyone whole but that only works if you’re connected to Jesus. And then, how does Jesus make us whole? Does He appear to everyone every time to personally meet their needs and attend to them? The obvious answer is No.
In fact, Matthew 25:40 says, “And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done [it] unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done [it] unto me.”
If you’re saved, the Bible calls you the body of Christ. You’re literally His body; His arms and legs and so on. When He wants to touch someone, He’s going to use your hands. Take this example.
Acts 9:10 And there was a certain disciple at Damascus, named Ananias; and to him said the Lord in a vision, Ananias. And he said, Behold, I [am here], Lord.
Acts 9:11 And the Lord [said] unto him, Arise, and go into the street which is called Straight, and enquire in the house of Judas for [one] called Saul, of Tarsus: for, behold, he prayeth,
Acts 9:12 And hath seen in a vision a man named Ananias coming in, and putting [his] hand on him, that he might receive his sight.
Acts 9:15 … Go thy way: for he is a chosen vessel unto me, to bear my name before the Gentiles, and kings, and the children of Israel:
Acts 9:16 For I will shew him how great things he must suffer for my name’s sake.
Acts 9:17 And Ananias went his way, and entered into the house; and putting his hands on him said, Brother Saul, the Lord, [even] Jesus, that appeared unto thee in the way as thou camest, hath sent me, that thou mightest receive thy sight, and be filled with the Holy Ghost.
Acts 9:18 And immediately there fell from his eyes as it had been scales: and he received sight forthwith, and arose, and was baptized.
Acts 9:19 And when he had received meat, he was strengthened. Then was Saul certain days with the disciples which were at Damascus.
Acts 9:20 And straightway he preached Christ in the synagogues, that he is the Son of God.
Jesus needed hands laid on that man so He mobilised someone to do it.
God said to me some years ago, “if you’re looking for people, you won’t find God but if you’re looking for God, you’ll find people because God lives in people.” So the bottom line is you can’t be connected to God in any way that’s meaningful, fulfilling and life altering in a good way without being connected and involved with people. God is simply a people person. God is love and love can’t just be by itself and still be love, it has to find someone to focus on for it to be love otherwise it’s just love of self also known as… selfishness.
So, if you think you are mature or want others to think of you as a mature person, ask yourself if you’ve been selfless rather than selfish. This is point #3.
There’s more to come.