Lessons from the book of Joshua
Joshua 22: 13-14 – Double Checking
… to go to war … they spoke with them …
These guys were already set for war; they had gathered the troops and collected weapons, all they needed were the orders to march and they would go over and mow down the target. But for some reason, they chose to open the communications channel and try to dialogue. Thankfully, they were able to discover that there was no need to attack their own people; what they initially thought was treasonous turned out to be a covenant aimed at binding the two settlements of the one nation together.
Many times, we find ourselves at odds with other people and we declare war and launch our attack but make the mistake of not verifying that what we have been told was said and done with malicious intent against us is actually fact and not some misrepresentation based on the reporter’s misunderstanding of what he saw and heard.
Many times, when a person lays a complaint, it’s usually with so much passion that one could get swept away believing as fact what the complainant has presented. Hearing one side of the story should never be enough to draw a conclusion and pass judgment even if this one side is coming from someone you trust.
Proverbs 18:17 The first speech in a court case is always convincing- until the cross-examination starts! (MESSAGE)
I have found that if we take out time to find out “the what and the why” from the other person’s point of view, things can, more often than not, be resolved amicably and a stronger bond of understanding and trust can be forged.