Q & A with Dr Linda … 4

In response to Q & A with Dr Linda … 1 [ see https://pdlionunlimited.wordpress.com/2017/10/19/q-a-with-dr-linda-1/ ], lsomeone asked a question.
Q: What if the pay is reasonably high, do you still advise she leaves her job for her husband’s domicile state?

In the case where the woman earns more than the man and where the family depends a lot on the woman’s salary,it will be better for the man to move . He can look for a job where she is in order to keep the family together. 

The focus should always be to keep the family together. 

If two people working in a bank fall in love and get married and the bank’s policy is that one must quit,who should quit?

The answer will always  depend on the focus.

If self preservation, personal security, job and career are the focus, there will be trouble however, if family is the focus, the answer will become easy. Who will step down will not matter or be a big deal. One can step down and make money for the other to start a business after all, the bible says we should prefer one another.

I know of a couple this happened to, the wife stepped down and got something less stressful than a bank job and all went well.

The biggest problem we Christians have in our marriages is not finances including separate accounts or same account, sex, in-laws, having children, infidelity and so on. It is simply because we have forgotten how to be Christians.

Like I said earlier, if infidelity comes in, the money earned will lose value.



Lessons from the book of Joshua

Joshua 3

Joshua 23:10 … one man, one God …


The estimated three million strong nation of Israel left Egypt and headed to the land of Canaan on foot. At some point in their trek, they were transformed from an escaping horde into a conquering army. It was in Deuteronomy 2:24 that God placed the occupation of the promised land in the hand of the people and He told them in a nut shell that they would occupy the land as they drive out the current occupants and “succeed” them in the land just as the children of Esau and of Lot had to do in order to occupy their various lands (Deuteronomy 2: 17-23).

I think it has always been God’s way with His people to let them take responsibility for their lives, with Him partnering with them, to make their lives as successful as can be rather than running their lives for them while they stood idly by and waited for the returns of God’s labour. Even if all you have to do is show up to see what God would do on your behalf, God will demand that from you. There is always what to do. I think this is the reason this verse is the way it is

Joshua 23:10  One man of you shall chase a thousand: for the LORD your God, he it is that fighteth for you, as he hath promised you.

It always takes a partnership between a man’s God and God’s man to bring to bear the kingdom of God on the earth.


2 Chronicles 20:14-26

Cyber Bible

Gen 1: 1-4

​In the beginning, God designed some software and hardware. The hardware was not formatted, it was blank, and it was not even powered. Meanwhile, he was brainstorming up a solution. Then God (using voice activated command) activated the power switch and the system booted up. And God noted the BIOS and put the system on UPS. 


Lessons from the book of Joshua

Joshua 3

Joshua 23:11 … care to love.


Does it make sense to ask someone to take care to ensure he loves someone else? Is it not something that is either there or not? Since love is a feeling, it’s either there or it is not, I mean, it’s either the person loves or he doesn’t … period. Right?

This verse of scripture, containing one of President Joshua’s final instructions to his people indicates otherwise. It appears that one can actually choose to love or not to love. It is shown here to be something one does and not just something one feels. It is so much so that it is something that is to be done with deliberate care so it is not lost.

Be very watchful of yourselves, therefore, to love the Lord your God. [Amplified]

One other translation even states, “This only take care of with all diligence, that you love the Lord your God.”

It becomes clear that the feeling of love is not love itself. One could get lost in the feeling and forget the real thing. It’s like using a thermometer to monitor temperature changes. The thermometer is not the temperature, but it is one device that is used to measure it. The common domestic thermometer is not even equipped to measure certain temperatures. If exposed to certain extremes of temperatures, our common thermometer will be destroyed.

In the same way, our feelings of love for God, for spouses, children and other people in our various lives can be a handy tool to help us as we love but there are “extremes of love” where the feelings or emotions become unreliable and might even fail but at every level of walking in love, we always have a choice to make.

It is to this detail that Joshua called his people to pay attention. It is easy to feel the love you have for God when you are daily wowed by His wonders in the pillar of cloud and fire, the daily supply of manna and of quails and the steady conquests on the field of battle but how long with that feeling last when you notice the pillar has moved out of sight, when you now have to cultivate the land and sweat for your food and when there are no more battles being fought and won? When such a point comes, it now becomes a task, a serious duty to love.

This is how Jesus put it, “He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me.”

Love is an action word. Love is a choice. We must take care to love.

John 14:15, 21, 23-24; 15:9-10.

Q & A with Dr Linda … 3


I have always desired a very good relationship with my in laws….anytime they come visiting, my home will not be comfortable for me. My husband has really been trying to make them Understand. I am yet to have a child but I am trusting God. I am also very worried when talks of going to visit his family comes up. I am really trying to be a very God daughter to them but all my efforts seem to go down the drain.


I don’t really know what they do to you but I will advise that you should try to be patient.  Many Nigerian families (not all ) see son or daughter in laws as intruders. It is made worse when a child is yet to arrive.

Bear with them, trust God for a baby, try to make your visits short but never prevent them from coming and do not stop going to them.

Q & A with Dr Linda … 2

Q: Please what do you advise a woman to do if her husband is a womanizer and he tells the wife that girlfriends give him luck and that it’s what make him happy and that every man has a girlfriend. What do u do as a Woman in that situation?


First thing. 

With God, all things are possible. All things are possible to them that believe. Do you believe it is possible to get your husband back?

If you do not believe, then there is nothing anybody can do for you. 

Secondly, it is time to fight for him; not the girls. You have no business with the girls. You can’t kill a tree by cutting down the branches. You go for the root. The devil is the root. 

Remember too that you are more than a conqueror; you are fighting a battle that you have won. The man is yours. So you have every right in heaven and on earth to claim him. God is your witness. 

The day you got wedded,it was you, him and God. There were no girlfriends added to the list. Go before God and claim the right of a wife. Stand before the devil and rebuke him. 

A pastor’s wife I know told women in church having this problem to stand naked before God and PRAY. 

Claim your right. Another said anoint yourself, pray and sleep with him, anoint his boxers and claim him. You will be surprised that the desire for other women will die a natural death. 

Meanwhile, treat him well. Cook for him. Do what a wife should do but take the battle to the spiritual realm.


Lessons from the book of Joshua

Joshua 3

Joshua 23:7,9 … gods of play.


Joshua 23:7, 9  That ye come not among these nations, these that remain among you; neither make mention of the name of their gods, nor cause to swear by them, neither serve them, nor bow yourselves unto them … For the LORD hath driven out from before you great nations and strong: but as for you, no man hath been able to stand before you unto this day.

Joshua was pointing out to his people that the gods of the nations around them were not worth worshipping because of the obvious fact that Jehovah, the God of Israel, was able to overcome them and drive out their people who even seemed to be great [Hebrew for old, mighty] nations. One would think such a show of superiority in power was enough to permanently fix the heart of the nation of Israel to Jehovah God forever but ooooh no! Again and again the heart of Israel wandered after other gods following Joshua’s passing.

I think the major problem was Israel wanting to be like other nations around them (1 Samuel 8:5) and not really that they wanted to worship the mightiest God there was. They probably were enticed by the way their neighbours “worshipped” their gods cos it appealed to their sinful, carnal and selfish desires.

Exodus 32:6… and the people sat down to eat and to drink, and rose up to play.

The word translated here as “play” [Hebrew: A primitive root; to laugh outright (in merriment or scorn); by implication to sport: – laugh, mock, play, make sport. (Strong’s H6711)]  is also translated as “laugh” when Abraham, as well as Sarah, laughed in unbelief as recorded in Genesis 17:17, and 18:12; the same word is found in Genesis 26:8 when Jacob was “sporting” with his wife and the host king saw it as inappropriate unless they were married; the same word is found in Judges 16:25 when Samson was making “sport” for the Philistines.

So, I think whatever the Israelites were doing in their play around the golden calf, there was nothing reverential or worshipful about it and it was typical of the sort of play that the nations around them engaged in in the name of worship to their various gods.

Anyway, Joshua thought it wise to remind them to keep following the Almighty God, Jehovah, and not the other gods around them in spite of the obvious superiority because he knew that though the display of power was enough to make a believer out of someone, it was not enough to make a worshipper out of someone because worshipping involves a connection of hearts that goes beyond what God can do to who He actually is, loving Him for who we know Him to be and committing to following Him as long as we live with all our hearts and souls and might.

Joshua was not alone in this effort to remind us of the obvious.

2Pe 1:12-15  Wherefore I will not be negligent to put you always in remembrance of these things, though ye know them, and be established in the present truth. Yea, I think it meet, as long as I am in this tabernacle, to stir you up by putting you in remembrance; Knowing that shortly I must put off this my tabernacle, even as our Lord Jesus Christ hath shewed me. Moreover I will endeavour that ye may be able after my decease to have these things always in remembrance.

2Peter 3:1-4  This second epistle, beloved, I now write unto you; in both which I stir up your pure minds by way of remembrance: That ye may be mindful of the words which were spoken before by the holy prophets, and of the commandment of us the apostles of the Lord and Saviour: Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts, And saying, Where is the promise of his coming?

Phillipians 3:1  Finally, my brethren, rejoice in the Lord. To write the same things to you, to me indeed is not grievous, but for you it is safe.

Stating the obvious may not always be complimentary but I’d say it is important. Considering how today’s world is doing all it can to expunge God from its consciousness, in spite of all the obvious signs and wonders in creation and in individual lives which testify of Him, and to replace him with anything that allows them to play as they wish, I’d say it is pretty important to repeat some things that are already obvious.