Q & A with Dr Linda

Question

How can I help control the anger of my partner? If I do talk to her she always misunderstands all my talks. We fight over small issues. How can this be resolved?

Answer.
The first thing here is that both of you are not communicating. Both are talking but no communication hence the misunderstanding.
I would advise that you take a different approach to communicating.
Next time you have an issue, look for a time when you can talk to her calmly and she can receive you the same way. If things start getting heated up, postpone the discussion and let her know that both of you or she is too angry to continue.
The second issue is that you cannot control another person’s anger. You do not have control over another person”s emotions. You can stir it up but not control it. It is up to her to be able to take steps to control her emotions.
The best way to take control over anger is God’s word. The word has the power you need to overcome it and grow to the extent that you can choose not to get angry in annoying situations. It is called being spirit controlled. The control is entirely up to her.
You can also encourage her to take
these steps.
If she is not interested in working on her anger, then I would advise you to reconsider the relationship.
A person easily given to anger is usually out of control and is unpredictable.
Prov 21:19
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman.
Prov 22:24
Make no friendship with an angry man;and a furious man,thou shalt not go.
Prov 29:22.
An angry man stirreth up strife,and a furious man aboundeth in transgression .
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