Lovers’ Quarrel

Q: I usually get into arguments with my fiance almost everytime. This gets me wondering if the marriage will work out in the future. What can be done sir so that we won’t always be in conflict?


Disagreements are of two basic types.

1. Violation of Personal principles

2. Violation of Generally accepted principles.

These two can usually be resolved with mutual education and support for each other.

This is very different from a scenario where no matter which way you go, major disagreements come up. It means one, or both of you, is a disagreeable person.

The church word we use for such people is contentious.

The Bible says to avoid such a person.

Prov 21:19 [It is] better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

And when an argument gets to the point of contention, no truth is being communicated. Biblical example tells me to just let the person be.

1Cor 11:16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.

So, you have to check which category your disagreements fall into and from there, you can work your way forward or smartly pull out of the relationship.

Do not ignore warning signs.


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