Continued from part 9
When you develop a relationship with God and you allow him to change you to suit his will ,your taste for a spouse will completely change.
The yardstick for your choice will change.
You will no longer sit around waiting for just any available person but you will have godly criteria other than beauty and size of pocket to make your choice.
The things that will be important to you will be
1. Is this person a child of God?
2Cor 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
2. Does this person love and obey God?
Jn 14:15 If ye love me, keep my commandments.
Pss 119:127 Therefore I love thy commandments above gold; yea, above fine gold.
Pss 145:20 The Lord preserveth all them that love him: but all the wicked will he destroy.
3. Does this person involve God in his/her decisions and life?
Is the person controlled by God ?
Prov 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
Prov 3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Prov 3:7 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord, and depart from evil.
A man controlled by God will not hit you. A woman controlled by God will not hurt you , neither will they cheat on you or abandon you.
Gen 39:9 [There is] none greater in this house than I; neither hath he kept back any thing from me but thee, because thou [art] his wife: how then can I do this great wickedness, and SIN AGAINST GOD?
It is not sex or love that will keep your spouse from cheating but an undying devotion to God.
4. What has the person be called to do?
Is the person actively pursuing it?
Do you know what the person plans to do with his life?Does it complement you?
You as a believer want to pursue your calling and your spouse wants to open a beer parlour.
He works with a company that delivers goods and he steals some to sell for himself or sells goods that ought to be free?
She does not mind sleeping around to get a job.
What is important to this person you want to date?
5.What does God have to say about this person?
1Sam 16:1 And the Lord said unto Samuel, How long wilt thou mourn for Saul, seeing I have rejected him from reigning over Israel? fill thine horn with oil, and go, I will send thee to Jesse the Beth–lehemite: for I have provided me a king among his sons.
1Sam 13:14 But now thy kingdom shall not continue: the Lord hath sought him a man after his own heart, and the Lord hath commanded him [to be] captain over his people, because thou hast not kept [that] which the Lord commanded thee.
Job 1:8 And the Lord said unto Satan, Hast thou considered my servant Job, that [there is] none like him in the earth, a perfect and an upright man, one that feareth God, and escheweth evil?
Job 2:3 And the Lord said unto Satan, Hast thou considered my servant Job, that [there is] none like him in the earth, a perfect and an upright man, one that feareth God, and escheweth evil? and still he holdeth fast his integrity, although thou movedst me against him, to destroy him without cause.
What is God saying about the person you are interested in?
6. Are you willing to do purpose with this person?
Is the person ready to do purpose with you?
Mt 1:20 But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.
Mt 1:21 And she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name JESUS: for he shall save his people from their sins.
Mt 1:22 Now all this was done, that it might be fulfilled which was spoken of the Lord by the prophet, saying,
Mt 1:23 Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us.
Mt 1:24 Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife:
Mt 1:25 And knew her not till she had brought forth her firstborn son: and he called his name JESUS.
It is a man or a woman that is born again, knows God,is controlled by God,loves you like God ,supports you like God would, helps you fulfil your purpose in life and pursues the will of God with everything in him/her that you will be able to produce a blissful relationships and marriage with.
In conclusion, if you decide to do things on your own or the way the world dictates, you will end up at the wrong bus stop because by strength shall not man prevail.
However, God is our present help in time of need.
God’s way has to be the only way for you and the only way that works that can also guarantee a blissful marriage and life.
At the end of this seminar, I want you to go back to God and set your heart right. A blissful relationship or marriage does not come by meeting Mr or Miss right but you being Mr or Miss right and you can only be right when your heart is right with God.
Lk 12:30 For all these things do the nations of the world seek after: and your Father knoweth that ye have need of these things.
Lk 12:31 But rather seek ye the kingdom of God; and all these things shall be added unto you.
When you follow God and let him in,he makes your heart right and rewards you with everything you have ever wanted.
You can’t have a blissful life without God.
Thank you so much for taking out time to read my epistle. I believe God will use it to as a tool to transform your life.
Dr Linda Oyanna is a public speaker on health, relationship, marriage and family. She is a mother figure, mentor and role model for several young ladies who desire the balance she has been able to achieve among her many roles.