Voice Over

Q: In a situation where one did not hear clear voice or dream but has Love for a lady and ones Spirit conforms to it. Fortunately, the lady involve also loves u in return. Does one still need to say Speak lord for one to be fully ascertain or whatever?


The answer to this question is highly individualistic. It depends on your prior relationship with God.

When you say your “spirit confirms it”, I will have to ask how far your spirit confirmation has taken you in the past. If that is how God has been leading you before now, then go with it.

If, however, you have never recorded any tangible testimony to this effect, then, I wouldn’t even tell you to go and pray. I’ll first of all teach you how to be led by God.

Marriage will have to wait.



Q: What does it mean exactly to respect your spouse, especially from a sis to a bro?


Simply put, treat him like you want him to treat you.
Particularly from girl to guy, treat him like the head of your future family. If I say treat him like your boss at the office from whom you take instructions, it might be going too far. But look at it like your boss who is in love with you and trying to get you to marry him.

He is still your boss when it comes to decision making time but outside that, you treat him like an equal.

Most ladies are afraid of giving their man the due respect. What they don’t realise is that you reap what you sow, good measure, pressed down and running over. Any man who gets respect from a woman cannot help respecting that woman in return.

Hey Doc!: Contraception and Weight Gain


My question is on weight management/birth control. Since I fixed the implant birth control I have added so much weight over the last 3 years. I’ve tried keto exercise, drugs, herbal teas but still I am not loosing as much as I am gaining. The implant has also made so many changes in my body. Periods are highly irregular and comes with a lot of nauseating symptoms. Do you advice me to change this birth control method and which can be recommended?


Hormonal contraceptives, in whatever form affect the entire body in various ways that are consistent with their profile of activity.

Weight gain is one of them. However, you need to verify that it is the hormones in this implant that is causing weight gain because as far as I know, the particular chemicals in the implants are not associated with weight gain but rather menstrual irregularities.

Be sure you’re not dealing with familial weight tendencies. Also, I would be interested in you checking how consistent you have been with your various attempts at shedding weight and how long you have been making the effort.

Most folks take the weight loss measures of some advertised protocols for two months and complain they are not as slim as they were told they would be in two weeks. You have to realise that all those two weeks stories you see online are adverts meant to draw your attention.

I am yet to meet anyone who went from clearly overweight to just slightly overweight by taking slimming tea nor a “keto” diet. Most of these things work for those who have not been too much overweight and whose weight gain was due solely to poor food habits. Once they remove some stuff from their eating lifestyle, the weight goes off. But if the weight is due to genetic tendencies or other conditions, you have to get help and stick to a weight loss program that works for a long time.

In your case, you may need to remove the implant and try another form of contraception if you want to be sure.


Q: I don’t see myself falling in love as people do claim it is. Is this normal? It looks strange to me seeing people say they are in love.


Adam was completely calm too in his single state. He didn’t even pray one prayer point for a spouse. But God, in generosity, sent Eve … and a new vista of experiences opened in Adam that he didn’t even know were there.

Don’t worry about it. The right person will come and format your emotional realm.

But if what you are referring to is all those crazy things we do and feel in the name of love, forget about it, it is like a fever, it will pass.

Hey Doc!: Vaginal Swelling


Please sir,what is the cause of swollen vagina during menstruation,ovulation and after sex? Thanks



Let me attempt, first, to correct the question so we can give correct answers.

The vagina is not that opening in between a woman’s legs guarded on both sides by some folds of skin. Those are the Labia. There is a a pair of regular skin folds, one on each side called the Labia Majora. Just under the cover of the majora are the Labia Minora. These are made of a softer type of tissue. The “tube” after the minora is what is called the Vagina by doctors. The vagina itself does not swell although it gets more lubrication from increased fluids during intercourse and child birth.
So, I suspect you are referring to the Labia Majora and Minora which together form the Vulva or Vaginal orifice.

Yes, they do swell up under various circumstances as a normal body response. But all of it is based on fluid accumulation inside the labia. This facilitates intercourse, without it, sex is painful. During ovulation and for some, during menstruation as well, fluid builds up in the body and leads to certain parts feeling fuller or looking swollen such as the breasts, the nipples (making them a little painful) and the labial folds. Once the event is past, fluid regresses and everything assumes the usual size and shape.

This process is very normal.

Lovers’ Quarrel

Q: I usually get into arguments with my fiance almost everytime. This gets me wondering if the marriage will work out in the future. What can be done sir so that we won’t always be in conflict?


Disagreements are of two basic types.

1. Violation of Personal principles

2. Violation of Generally accepted principles.

These two can usually be resolved with mutual education and support for each other.

This is very different from a scenario where no matter which way you go, major disagreements come up. It means one, or both of you, is a disagreeable person.

The church word we use for such people is contentious.

The Bible says to avoid such a person.

Prov 21:19 [It is] better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

And when an argument gets to the point of contention, no truth is being communicated. Biblical example tells me to just let the person be.

1Cor 11:16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.

So, you have to check which category your disagreements fall into and from there, you can work your way forward or smartly pull out of the relationship.

Do not ignore warning signs.

Q & A with Dr Linda


How can I help control the anger of my partner? If I do talk to her she always misunderstands all my talks. We fight over small issues. How can this be resolved?

The first thing here is that both of you are not communicating. Both are talking but no communication hence the misunderstanding.
I would advise that you take a different approach to communicating.
Next time you have an issue, look for a time when you can talk to her calmly and she can receive you the same way. If things start getting heated up, postpone the discussion and let her know that both of you or she is too angry to continue.
The second issue is that you cannot control another person’s anger. You do not have control over another person”s emotions. You can stir it up but not control it. It is up to her to be able to take steps to control her emotions.
The best way to take control over anger is God’s word. The word has the power you need to overcome it and grow to the extent that you can choose not to get angry in annoying situations. It is called being spirit controlled. The control is entirely up to her.
You can also encourage her to take
these steps.
If she is not interested in working on her anger, then I would advise you to reconsider the relationship.
A person easily given to anger is usually out of control and is unpredictable.
Prov 21:19
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman.
Prov 22:24
Make no friendship with an angry man;and a furious man,thou shalt not go.
Prov 29:22.
An angry man stirreth up strife,and a furious man aboundeth in transgression .