Is marriage a spiritual contract or social contrast? Apart from Adam, did God choose wife for any other man in the bible?
A: Social Contrast?
What is that?
I will assume it is a typographical error and the intended word is contract.
Marriage is the Union between two adults for the purpose of sharing life together.
The world uses the term “contract” but in the kingdom, we recognise marriage as a covenant. The difference is that with a contract, your partner fulfills terms to keep you committed failing which you walk out but with a covenant, you love unconditionally as Christ loves.
As to the other question, it is incomplete understanding that makes us think God chose or gave Adam a wife. All the spinoff preachings and teachings we have had from that foundational error are therefore inherently wrong.
Popular example is that we say God gave Adam a wife then when sin came, Adam blamed God and since then God said he who finds a wife finds a good thing so in other words, we’re on our own.
This belief is flawed in so many ways.
1. It presumes that God learned His lesson and decided to adjust protocol.
If the one you call God is still learning lessons, then He is not fit to be called God. It means his role as God is subject to overthrow by someone else comes up with stuff He is unable to learn.
Elohim, the one we serve has neither made any single discovery nor learnt anything not has He improved in anyway. I Am is a steady state description and not transitory. He is who He is in the past, who He is in the present, and who He is in the future. I know the grammar in that sentence is not correct but our languages fail to fully describe God because even we, the handlers of the languages, fail to comprehend Him and neither indeed can we.
He is the same yesterday, today and forever means He is not capable of learning anything.
God did not learn anything in that Garden, Adam did. He learned he was irresponsible and afraid and he learned that sin has killed him. He also learned that God is full of mercy otherwise He should have erased both himself and his wife on the spot, rather, He announced His salvation plan. A plan that had been prepared from before the foundations of the world and the lamb already slain before the earth was formed.
Do you still think God was taken by surprise?
2. Second faulty premise is the presumption that God gave Adam a wife.
Gen 2:22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
God doesn’t force things on people. He made us with a will and the capacity to choose. God brought a woman to Adam just as he had brought other creatures before but Adam chose Eve. Read the preceding verses. You will see that the reason God brought all the animals to Adam was not because they needed to be named but because Adam needed to name one of them to be his companion.
Gen 2:18 And the Lord God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Gen 2:19 And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought [them] unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that [was] the name thereof.
Gen 2:20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; *but* for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
Then God made a female version of Adam and brought her to him and again Adam named her as well only this time, he chose to cleave to her.
It was after his choice to cleave to her she became a wife to him.
Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Gen 2:25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
And when trouble came, Adam said,
Gen 3:12 And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest [to be] with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.
He didn’t say the wife you gave to be with me.
God did the same with Isaac. He led Abraham’s servant to Rebecca and she was brought to Isaac but it was when Isaac took her that she became his wife.
Truth is, we don’t really look for wives, we look for good women to make our wives.
Prov 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price [is] far above rubies.
You don’t go around looking for finished product, the wife you get is the wife you made from the woman you choose.
Prov 18:22 [Whoso] findeth a wife findeth a good [thing], and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
You find a good wife in a virtuous woman. Choose wisely.
Now in choosing wisely is where the work is for us. What is the basis of your wisdom in choosing? Your preference or the will of God?
Here is one way I know someone who is Christian, born again but has a very poor relationship with God. Such people, the will of God scares them. They say God is love but don’t think He understands what love means or feels like and therefore cannot possibly understand what it means to be in love and so He will lead them to someone they cannot love.
James 1:5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all [men] liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
James 1:6 But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
Prov 2:6 For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of his mouth [cometh] knowledge and understanding.
If you are afraid to ask God to lead you to whom you should pick to be your wife, then you are like a child who is scared that Daddy is sending him to school because he doesn’t want his child around him and thinks he knows better than that so he fights to stay at home.
Prov 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
If you have ever allowed God to lead you on other issues before the matter of choosing a spouse, you would have tasted and seen that The Lord is good. It is in getting God involved in your life that you build a relationship with Him.
If you are yet to discover the goodness of the will of God, it means you’re still thinking like the world and living like the world. The Bible says in Romans 12:1-2
Rom 12:1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, [which is] your reasonable service.
Rom 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Choose wisely, but before choosing a woman to become your wife, choose first to have your mind renewed so you can discern the will of God which is infinitely good in intention, acceptable on presentation and perfect in its execution.
God go with you.