In our society when somebody has achieved a level of education or vocational training, it is equated to being independent. This analogy is not favourable for those who are in their late 20s and early 30s who finish late, considering the state of the nation. What should be done to be independent so as to settle down before time slips away?
It is an error to consider independent a person who has achieved a level of education, or training, simply because of that. Graduate, yes; independent, no.
I prefer the concept of autonomy over independence. Autonomy means you know who you are and you’re exercising the right to choose and you stand with your choices and bear the responsibility that comes with it, good or bad.
Independence means you don’t need anyone to be what you wish to be and for mankind, not only is that not possible, it is not God’s design.
Finishing training and earning money makes you an earner. It makes you economically productive but it still doesn’t make you autonomous, or independent as you might wish to say. You can still earn money and be so irresponsible that your parents or friends still need to supervise the way you spend that money.
Rather, autonomy comes when you are able to display, and persuade others to accept as truth, that you are now able to navigate life to a well defined destination, fully aware that things might not go according to plan but also confident that you can make it work through creativity and ingenuity all the while holding yourself responsible for the implications of your decisions and actions. You will also demonstrate a judicious use of resources around you including people in the form of counselors and partners in the business of life, some as friends, one as a life partner.
All of this can be proven before a man completes his training in any vocation.
Once again, David was a lad and untrained in the affairs of royalty but he won the confidence of everyone by a display of all these things I just mentioned, including his relationship with Jonathan.
All that said, in view of economic demands, entrepreneurship is a step forward. Waiting to get a job and blaming your conditions on unemployment is doing the same thing Adam did by blaming God. You don’t have to graduate to become financially self sufficient. I could tell you my story but hardly would you believe it but there is enough evidence around you if you look to see those students who are doing “something” to pay their way through school. Do you think those guys will graduate and be waiting for an employer to recruit them so they can start looking for who to marry?
Answer is no.