Q & A with Dr Linda … 1

Q: Please how do you view this? A wife staying in a different state far from her husband and home (Abuja-Kaduna) because of a state govt work of 31 thousand a month. Is it advisable? Do you advice work making a woman stay away from her husband?

A: Personally, I do not advice it. Although, some people will say they don’t have an alternative cos they need the money she is also making. Her family is more important than 31k. 

There are things she can do to make even more income if she is with her husband. 

The major problem is that everyone wants a white collar job. We feel too big for some businesses. There are some things I can do and get tab 31k in a week or even fewer days. 

She has to open her mind to possibilities. 

Did you hear the story of a woman whose family was broke and God told to make moi moi and sell?

Michelle Obama ate her moi moi. 

No matter how much you make on a job, except you are making serious millions monthly, it only locks down your potential.

It gives false security.

If her husband gets involved in adultery now, that 31k will suddenly lose value.

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The lady: Her home, her career and her call … 5

by Dr Linda Oyanna


The lady: Her home, her career and her call.
Continued from part 4

HER CALL. 

Everybody born into this world has an assignment. A God given purpose to fulfil on earth. God did not make you to just exist, marry, have children and die one day. He has put treasures in you for you to express and affect the world around you. There is a problem that you are a solution to. 

Go to your Lord to find out what you were made for. Find out the kind of solution that you are and ask him how you can be that it.

Paul encountered Jesus and the first thing he said was “What would you have me do?”

Ask him…Lord, what would you have me do? What should I do in this church? What should I do in my community? What should I do to the people around me.

Prov 31:20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

This is ministry. 

You do not have to be a pastor or married to one for you to affect the lives of people around you. Let God show you who he has made you to be and start doing it by following his instructions. 

If you notice, every discussion concerning this topic begins with God because it is only with God that your life can make sense. Outside him is stress,struggle, chaos and dissatisfaction.

Walking with Him makes you  focused and gives you everything you need to excel and succeed as the virtuous woman he has made you.

In conclusion, the virtuous woman excelled not because she is superwoman with nine lives neither did she have two heads but she was one who knew her Lord ,stayed with him and depended on him.

Never believe that you can’t achieve the same results, follow Jesus too and you will see the virtuous woman in you emerge. 

There is a virtuous woman locked up  in you and I pray that she will find expression in Jesus name.

The series continues with “Q & A with Dr Linda”

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The lady: Her home, her career and her call … 4

by Dr Linda Oyanna

The lady: Her home, her career and her call.
Continued from part 3

HER  CAREER 

In your career as a virtuous woman, you need wisdom, knowledge, understanding and strength in order to excel. It is not just enough to get the basic training. You need your Lord to help you navigate your career and when he does, you will excel without stress or loss .

The bible says that Christ has been made unto you wisdom.

1Cor 1:30 But of him are ye in Christ Jesus, who of God is made unto us wisdom, and righteousness, and sanctification, and redemption.

Pss 18:29 For by thee I have run through a troop; and by my God have I leaped over a wall.

By God, you will accomplish the impossible. 

Prov 31:16 (AMP) She considers a [new] field before she buys or accepts it [expanding prudently and not courting neglect of her present duties by assuming other duties]; with her savings [of time and strength] she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard.

Prov 2:6 For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of his mouth [cometh] knowledge and understanding.

Prov 2:11 Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee:

Prov 3:13 Happy [is] the man [that] findeth wisdom, and the man [that] getteth understanding.

Prov 4:7 Wisdom [is] the principal thing; [therefore] get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.

Prov 4:5 Get wisdom, get understanding: forget [it] not; neither decline from the words of my mouth.

The Lord wants his lady to prosper in her career because her success is a reflection of the workings of his grace in her. Whatever your career,be it medicine, law, catering, beauty, fashion, etc, God can provide you with the strength to handle it without you breaking down, struggling or suffering loss. If you are working by your own wits, you will struggle but if you rely on God, your progress will be far more.

Pss 18:29 For by thee I have run through a troop; and by my God have I leaped over a wall.

By God, you will accomplish the impossible. 

Prov 31:16 (AMP) She considers a [new] field before she buys or accepts it [expanding prudently and not courting neglect of her present duties by assuming other duties];with her savings  [of time and strength] she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard.

This is wisdom at work. 

She does not jump into every new thing that is in town because everybody is doing it. 

She weighs it and considers how it affects her home and her present duties. 

Some of us do not have time for our families because we are too busy taking up more than we can handle or doing things we have no business getting involved in.

Did God send you into all the things you are involved in? Get wisdom, understanding and direction from the One who knows all things. 

Get God involved in your career and you will see His hand for He will tell you what to do and how to go about it while people looking at you will see a wise industrious woman, whereas, you know who your source is.

Watch out for part 5 ___________________________________________

Dr Linda Oyanna is a public speaker on health, relationship, marriage and family. She is a mother figure, mentor and role model for several young ladies who desire the balance she has been able to achieve among her many roles. 

The lady: Her home, her career and her call … 3

by Dr Linda Oyanna


The lady: Her home, her career and her call.
Continued from part 2.

HER HOME. 

Remember that I said that God has already put in you what you need to be that virtuous woman he created you to be.

Next, you have to admit that having a good home is possible. You have what it takes to create that beautiful home you have always dreamt of.

If you keep thinking that that home that was described in Proverbs 31 is unattainable, you will lock up the potential you have in you to create that kind of home.

God is a creator. He created the whole world out of nothing with his word. Everything we see that was created was hidden in God as potential which He released by his word. 

Gen 1:2 And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness [was] upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters.

Then he created you in his image and likeness. He put that same potential to create inside of you.

Gen 1:26 And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

This is why a woman is said to be transform things. Give her a house, she will give you a home. Give her a sperm and she will give you a baby.

We have that built-in capacity to create. Imagine if God felt he could not do anything about the darkness? He  would have carried all these beautiful things and people  inside of him, locked up without expression. He would have been alone still brooding over the darkness. Unfortunately, this describes how the lives of some ladies are. They are brooding in darkness with their full potential locked up.

I thank God for this conference because we have suddenly realized that we can be far much more than we thought we could.

So how do I create what I desire in my home?

1. Act like the God you resemble.  SPEAK

Rom 4:17 (As it is written, I have made thee a father of many nations,) before him whom he believed, [even] God, who quickeneth the dead, and calleth those things which be not as though they were.

Gen 1:3 And God said, Let there be light: and there was light.

God knew what he wanted and He spoke. And whatever he said came to pass and whatever he called what he created maintained that name and NATURE.

Adam that God created in his likeness practiced this  and it also worked for him.

Gen 2:19 And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought [them] unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that [was] the name thereof. 

Gen 2:20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

So my sisters, open your mouth and create. Speak the kind of home you want, the kind of children you want, the kind of husband you want.

As a single lady,speak what you want. As a married lady, speak what you want your husband to become. Most importantly, speak the virtuous woman that is in you out. Speak what you want to see in your life. Are you tired of being lazy? Call the strength buried in your spirit out.

Prov 31:17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

Are you always confused, call wisdom and understanding out from your spirit.

2. Go to God for  grace

You can’t do this by your power and on your own. You need God’s help to express what you have inside.

You need to be empowered for productivity. The word says we should come boldly to access the help to be all we can be.

3. Open your heart to information. 

Nobody knows it all hence we need each other and platforms like this to increase our capacity. 

The greatest source of information on your abilities is the word of God which contains the power to perform what it says.

Study the word, read books, add value to yourself, improve your skills etc. Read books on homemaking, marriage, men, women,children at different levels of development.

I always buy puff puff for my kids because they love it but I was not impressed with what I was getting so one day, after buying one terrible puff puff my boys refused to eat, I  just picked up my phone and used Google to search for how to make puff puff and that was the end. 

If I let my boys have their way, I  will fry puff puff everyday because Mommy’s puff puff is so nice and sweet. Now, they ask me to make all manner of things.

I speak restoration of peace and love in Jesus name.

What you need to create that home you so desire is not out of reach at all. All you need to do as a virtuous woman who is irresistible to go the extra mile. You have what it takes to create the kind of family that your kids and husband will enjoy. The home that your husband will always want to come to can be created by you. 

I speak peace to marriages that are having problems right now. I command the devil to take his hands off  those families. I pray for wisdom and knowledge of what to do to restore things.

Prov 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 

Prov 31:12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. 

Prov 31:13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. 

Prov 31:14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

Amplified bible says she is loaded with foodstuffs and brings her family food from a far country. 

This shows that she is a resourceful woman who loves information. She seeks wool and flax. She is always searching. 

Spice up your home, marriage and life by being resourceful. You do not have to travel anymore to learn some things, you have the whole world in your phone.

Do yourself a big  favour and read prov 31 from Amplified bible.

4. Do the word.

After speaking, asking for grace and getting informed, you still have to do the word. Practice what you have learnt. We have been bombarded with so much eye opening information. If all you do is celebrate the information without doing, you will lose what you have received. 

Jas 1:22 But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves. 

Jas 1:23 For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass:

Jas 1:24. For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was. 

Jas 1:25. But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth [therein], he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.

The blessing will show in the doing. You will be so surprised how the virtue in you will jump out when you practice what you have been hearing. 

It is never enough to just hear.

Watch out for part 4

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Dr Linda Oyanna is a public speaker on health, relationship marriage and family. She is a mother figure, mentor and role model for several young ladies who desire the balance she has been able to achieve among her many roles. 

The lady: Her home, her career and her call … 2

by Dr Linda Oyanna

The lady: Her home, her career and her call.
Continued from part 1

THE LADY.

This refers to you … you the individual. 

As I said earlier, you are the one who is expressed in these various roles. If you neglect YOU, you will chase after these various roles, you will get some, lose some and lose the lady in the process.

Your focus should be entirely on the lady. Interestingly, there can’t be a lady without her Lord. You can’t ignore God and express your full potential. In him is your life, strength, wisdom, power, purpose, ability, beauty and our irresistibility.

Col 1:17 And he is before all things, and by him all things consist.

Amplified bible says in Him,all things are held together. Another translation says in Him,all things take their proper place.

Without Christ, everything becomes chaotic, out of place, out of sync. It is only in him you can hold things together. 

Seek God first and everything will be added to you. When you get your priorities right, all these things you are striving to get will be supplied to you on a platter of gold. 

If you want to see the virtuous woman in you expressed, spend time in God’s beauty parlour and let him prune you and mould you like a potter does with clay. Let him refine you like gold. Allow him prune those branches of virtue he has placed in you so you can bear much fruit in these areas.

Jn 15:4 Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me. 

Jn 15:5 I am the vine, ye [are] the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.

Let him cut off those dead branches of bad attitude, helplessness, hopelessness,  anger, unhappiness, unforgiveness, frustration, laziness,pride and any other thing that will truncate your glorious destiny.

Fruit can be likened to results. If you are connected to Jesus,you will definitely get the desirable results but outside him, you can do nothing.

Some of us have been battling with bad habits and undignifying secrets for years but Jesus is inviting you today to his beauty salon so he can remove those burdens. 

Mt 11:28 Come unto me, all [ye] that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you REST.

Mt 11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. Mt 11:30 

For my yoke [is] easy, and my burden is light.

Jesus is the word of God and the word washes.  He will wash you clean and prepare you for your glorious destiny. He will give your troubled soul rest.

By the time he is done with you,you will be irresistible.

After He finished with Eve and presented her to Adam, she was so irresistible that Adam became a poet. He had never seen such a remarkable and irresistible being. 

Gen 2:22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

Gen 2:23 And Adam said, This [is] now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

My sisters,do you want to be irresistible? Then let God make you.

Esther was a slave but she became irresistible to one of the most powerful men of her time and was seen as fit to replace the erring Queen. She was groomed in God’s beauty parlour. Her Uncle said there was a possibility that God had PREPARED her for that time which was the truth because God preserved the Jews through her.

Esth 4:14 For if thou altogether holdest thy peace at this time, [then] shall there enlargement and deliverance arise to the Jews from another place; but thou and thy father’s house shall be destroyed: and who knoweth whether thou art come to the kingdom for [such] a time as this?

Let God prepare you and bring out that virtue in you.

There are  some bad habits you have that you may not know that you have or some things you do that are harmful to you that you have no idea of.  God will show you when you submit to him and help you deal with it.

Watch out for part 3

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Dr Linda Oyanna is a public speaker on health, relationship marriage and family. She is a mother figure, mentor and role model for several young ladies who desire the balance she has been able to achieve among her many roles. 

The lady: Her home, her career and her call … 1

by Dr Linda Oyanna

The lady: Her home, her career and her call.

As a woman, a lot is usually expected from you by your family and the society at large and most times,we crumble under the weight of these expectations. We are expected to be prim and perfect women, perfect home makers, on top of our careers and excelling in ministry so we end up with a lot in our to do list, leaving us wishing we were Superwomen.

     We get to church and we hear about Proverbs  31 woman, another epitome of perfection as it seems, and we get frustrated. 

So, what is the way out?

   The biggest mistake you will make is to view all these areas you are to function in as different entities and try to pursue them as such. The Lady is a woman, a being that expresses herself in these various roles. If these roles are separated, you suddenly feel inadequate and depressed because it is humanly impossible to chase several things at the same time and catch all, giving rise to a woman who is excelling in some areas but suffering terribly in others.

Proverbs 31:10-31

 Many ladies complain that the demands on  the Provs 31 woman is unrealistic because they tried to be her and failed. God told me many years ago to stop trying to be the virtuous woman  because I was ALREADY her.

 He has put in me everything to be her. All I needed to do was to expose myself  to the right environment and information. 

2Pet 1:3 According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that [pertain] unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and VIRTUE.

Do you know that the heart of a woman is generally bigger than that of a man? Why? Cos a time will come when her heart will pump blood to more than one body when she gets pregnant. God has prepared your body to function as a woman physically not to talk of preparing you spiritually. 

What I need is His grace (empowerment) to express the virtue already deposited in me by Him. We tend to struggle when we try to be like someone else or we try to be who we already are. Stop trying and rely on God cos you can’t succeed by your own strength. 

There is the grace to be a woman who is a wife, a mother, a minister and a career woman. The grace makes all these work together in a synchronized way like threads used to weave a beautiful tapestry.

Heb 4:15 For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as [we are, yet] without sin.

 Heb 4:16 Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

Jesus had a lot of expectations of him too including being a sacrificial lamb and he handled it well so he can be  of great help to you in this time of your need. So go to him and ask him .

1Jn 5:14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:

1Jn 5:15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.

Watch out for Part 2

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Dr Linda Oyanna is a public speaker on health, relationship marriage and family. She is a mother figure, mentor and role model for several young ladies who desire the balance she has been able to achieve among her many roles.

UNDERSTANDING WHEN TO DATE AND WHOM PT 6

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We are still looking at the common factors that people consider as markers to begin dating and now we are ready for #3.

WHEN SHOULD I START DATING?
Common reason #3:
Birds of the same feather flock together.



I have had friends and acquaintances who were in distress at one point or the other in their lives because they realised they were being left out of the dating wave. In some cases, it was a lady lamenting how all her sisters, (some younger, some older) were going in and out of relationships with not so much as a second glance from a guy coming the way of the one lamenting.

Sometimes, it’s a guy thinking “all my friends are either engaged or married and I can’t seem to get a lady to agree to go out with me.”

Whichever be the particular scenario, it leads to a number of emotional destinations. Some feel unlovable, some feel left out, depressed and lonesome making them keep to themselves which further worsens their chances at being “found”. Some get jealous, quite sadly, while others get desperate. (We’ve talked about Desperation before now).

The reason for this situation is quite understandable. We all tend to be raised as part of a community. That community would take various forms as we grow up and exert their various pressures on us and our loved ones. Some of the forms we have but didn’t realise what they were include class mates, school mates, work colleagues, fellow church members or even siblings.

We find ourselves doing things not completely because we need to but because of the peer pressure. If my child improved from 20% performance to 75%, I would be happy but only for as long as I don’t find out that my neighbour’s kid improved from 75 to 77% because that discovery would bleach the “flying colours” on my kid’s report sheet. And the child picks up on that ideology, “Life is good when I am able to keep up” and so we grow up with this flock mentality and thus, many of the pressures we experience in life as a whole and in relationships in particular, stem from this perceived need to measure up.

Unfortunately, we forget that no two persons are the same. No, not even “identical twins” (I happen to have twins as kid sisters, very pretty girls… Identical but quite different). No two persons have the same divinely scripted destiny. There is no actual competition with anyone. The only person you should strive to outdo is yesterday’s version of yourself.

Winston Churchill is quoted as saying “Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.” So, don’t panic because everyone else but you seems to be getting the goods, just keep moving forward.

Free yourself from this pressure of trying to keep up. If you’re on a queue for food and the queue is so long that you can’t see the front, yet every few minutes, you see someone walk away from the front with a plate of food, then be patient, the line is moving, it will soon get to your turn. Do whatever is wise and decent for you to do in order to find your soul mate; do it for you and not because of anyone else.

By the way, those friends I mentioned all later found someone who cherished them and they are all married today.