Pocket Money

Q: Sir, What do you think?

A: I’m married … my wife is married. So the proper question is what do you think?

Q: Pastor Daniel naaaaaaaa … Lolzzzzz. Was hoping u would just give me ur opinion.

A: What would you do if you were in this position.

Q: I grew up in a home were we had excess and slowly got to where we had nothing. I honestly don’t have much respect for money, despite wat it can do, I am more interested in how smart he is, than how full his pocket is.
Besides the question says “Currently Earning” 🙃

A: Ok. Then. The question is answered.
I summarily agree with you.

Q: 🙄 😀 yes sir … Lolzzzzz

Majority of ladies including my sisters think opposite, their reason is the current economic change. So I started wondering….. If maybe times have changed.

A: Times change but wisdom does not change.

Currently earning meagre pay does not make someone a meagre person. Many, if not all, of the success stories in the world today had humble and rough beginnings. Even the Apostle Paul, the most documented of the Apostles, was in prison while writing those letters for which he is now famous through eternity.

One issue is to ask yourself if you can see this person beyond his current pay check. No matter how good it is, it is a pay check and anything can happen at anytime to make the pay check stop coming. Like in Nigeria, for some of us, the pay check did not stop coming but the economic situation cut the value of our earnings in half.

Realise this as a fact, nobody starts with his dream job. Even if he’s in business, the initial earnings are always a far cry from the projections that might have been the motivation to begin the business in the first place. Nothing starts at the top, except the grave.

Second issue is to ask yourself if the person sees himself beyond his current pay check. If he has a plan for his life that transcends his current circumstances, then his own security is not in his job but in himself and his vision. If the vision is from God, and he is actively pursuing it, then you can be sure he will succeed no matter the odds.

It is this security that you, as a woman, should be looking for. Does he lose himself because he has lost his job? When his pocket is empty, does his life feel empty to him, and then to you? These last questions define the line between guys and girls whose relationships revolve around money and materials as separate from those whose lives revolve around the person they claim they are in love with.

This brings me to the next issue, that of being the reason for your presence in his life. Of course he should have the material means to take care of you at the level you’re willing to allow. If he doesn’t have it, it’s either you will walk out or he would so that is not even the issue. The issue is this, you’re there to be his helper.

I must say with sincerity and gravity, if you’re not in a person’s life to be a help to him or her, you shouldn’t be there at all. If the man you have the hots for does not need your help, he does not need you period. Why do I say this?

You would recall that in the beginning before the woman was created, there were two major words used to describe her purpose, thereby justifying the necessity of her creation. They were “companion” and “suitable helper.”

Gen 2:18 And the Lord God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone (or without a companion); I will make him an help meet (or suited) for him.

“If purpose is not known,”
… say it with me … “abuse is inevitable.” If you lose focus of the reason you’re in his life, you will abuse his life and yours.

I know we want to argue that the man is supposed to also help the woman, I have nothing against that. But, if at the very beginning God created the *woman* to be a companion though life and a helper with assignments, then it cannot be ignored that, both in fact and in principle, you are there to help him.

And if you’re looking at the meagre resources the man currently has access to and what comes to your mind is insecurity rather than something you can multiply and make to increase, then your capacity to see is seriously compromised.

You are a life giver, sure, as a Christian, yes, but even more so as a Christian woman. You are a multiplier, a builder, a wonder worker even in the natural; I am yet to meet a man who is not awed by the process of birth. Yet women do this almost routinely.

The womb in your body is a physical reminder of the womb in your spirit. As a woman, you will take a single sperm cell and effortlessly provide the environment for it to be grown into a complete bodied and totally unique, previously unseen, human individual.

These are reminders that your presence in a man’s life is to provide an environment where his dreams can safely grow into something you can be proud of.

So, if you see a man earning little and you run away because of the little, you have missed the opportunity to be a partner with God in the making of something great. It also means that all those confessions you make in church and the declarations your minister makes over you actually mean nothing to you beyond the noise. I say this because if you claim to believe the word of God over your life, why do you think the word that the low income earning man is currently believing will not come to pass.

Should not the brother also be asking questions about your capacity to bear children? I guess you would expect him to believe that you can, right? Interestingly, even to your own self, you have no proof that you can bear children. All you have to go on are the seeds of your menstrual flow which come monthly and your faith. Same applies to him, if he has a small unnoticeable monthly seed in his hand and faith in his heart, does he not deserve to be believed in?

No matter what we can see now, our future is different from our present. If it’s bad, it can become good and if it’s good, it can become great.

2Cor 4:18 … we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen [are] temporal; but the things which are not seen [are] eternal.

Job 8:7 Though thy beginning was small, yet thy latter end should greatly increase.

1Tim 6:6 But godliness with contentment is great gain.

Your insecurity in God will produce insecurity in man and your insecurity with your chosen man is a sign that you are not yet secure in your relationship with God.


One Jesus and two kids

Remember that 2014 movie based on a true life story of a boy who died, went to heaven and was restored to life at the age of 4? It was titled Heaven is for Real.

In that movie, an effort was made by his parents to identify the face of Jesus from several pictures and paintings.

The little boy had tried to describe the Jesus he saw but it was when he saw the painting of Jesus by another child that he affirmed what Jesus looked like while he was in heaven. The painting was titled “The Prince of Peace”.

The amazing experience of Colton Burpo is corroborated by the equally amazing experience and artistic talent of Akiane Kramarik. At age 13 Akiane was already very successful financially and as an artist.

She is a lot older now and recently released a video of her journey to paint the impossible. You should watch it:

If you haven’t seen the movie Heaven is for Real, please search it out gather your family and watch it.

Hey doc!: Fibroids

Q: What causes fibroid in women? Is it true every woman is liable to having it at a point in life?

A: Fibroids.

The actual cause is not known but it definitely has a genetic tendency amongst female relatives like mother, sisters, etc. Since this genetic tendency is not in every family, not every woman will fibroids.

Quite often, they are first noticed during pregnancy because they tend to grow in size under the influence of the high levels of hormones that help grow the fetus. This does not however mean that they feed off the baby or any other stuff like that.

Once the baby is delivered and the hormone levels return to normal, the fibroids also tend to shrink to smaller sizes and some even “disappear”.

They are also often discovered in the process of investigating infertility. A simple ultrasound scan would pick them up. But even when found, they are not always the cause of infertility. A good doctor would be able to identify if the fibroids found are implicated in the case of infertility.

You might have heard that things like high sugar intake, infections, abortions, premarital sex or too much sex, having too many children or having no children or being overweight as causes of fibroids; these are not true.

In the process of investigating some of these conditions, a doctor might stumble across fibroids but this in no way suggests them as causes.

Looking forward to Paul

I just came across this.

A movie is in the making on the story of Apostle Paul with Jim Caviezel starring as Luke.

I am gladdend by the current trend of Christian movies in terms of quality output, calibre of actors recruited and the publicity. There are folks who won’t “hear” the gospel any other way.

Watch “PAUL APOSTLE OF CHRIST (2018) Movie Full Official Trailer Drama Movie HD JC Series” on YouTube

Ben-Hur and the stars

I saw a movie recently, Ben-Hur. It’s had a lot of do-overs because it is one treasured fictional story of some lives that were impacted directly by Jesus when he walked the earth.

This particular 2016 version of the story of Judah Ben-Hur featured a captivating musical piece at the end, nicely done with a compel voice and thoughtful lyrics. So I ran a search to find the artist and did a little more to find her disposition to Christ and the lyrics she sang.
I found this interview on a website credited to GOSPEL LIGHT MINUTE BROADCAST.

She is a singer and songwriter signed to Warner Bros. “Cheers to the Fall”, her debut album released in 2015 was met with critical acclaim, and peaked at #48 on the Billboard 200 chart. At the 2016 Grammy Awards, her album was nominated for Best R&B Album and the album’s primary single “Rise Up” was nominated for Best R&B Performance.

In an extensive interview with Relevant Magazine, she describes how a low point in her life led her to faith in Jesus Christ.

She said, “My mother converted to Christianity when we were very young. When I got into my teen years and into my younger adulthood it was, ‘Yeah, yeah, I believe.’ But I was smoking weed, drinking heavily, into promiscuity—cheating on whoever I was with—just doing things selfishly, and doing music for my own sort of vain persona. I ended up moving out to New York … but my conscience just started to catch up with me. I told [God] everything I had done, I told my family everything I had done. Dealing with the guilt and the shame, you know, it was a very low point in my life. I didn’t have a job, completely broke, sleeping on my mom’s couch in her tiny little apartment. And any deal I had at the time basically fell through. It was a low point, but it was the greatest point in my life.”

She continued, “I rededicated my life to Christ. I was like, ‘I’m not playing games anymore, I’m not lukewarm, I’m not doing that anymore.’ I regret hurting someone, but I’m grateful for who I have become and how close I’ve been able to grow in Christ, because of all of that. I always say ‘those years were formative years. When I came back to San Diego, I literally told God, “God if you want me to do this, I’ll do this. If you want me to teach, I’ll be a teacher. If you want me to panhandle on the corner for you, I’ll do that.

“From there, that’s when the door with Stevie Wonder opened. When things that weren’t supposed to be there came through. Eventually, he introduced me to the producer I did the record with, Adrian Gurvitz.

And so from that moment we met and I got into the studio, I told myself, ‘Tell the truth, talk about everything. Talk about the heartbreak you inflicted, talk about the heartbreak you experienced. What you’ve learned, how you’ve grown, how you continue to try and grow.’”

When asked about her very personal album, she said, “It is Christ who empowered me to be able to say those things. You’re not trying to prove yourself anymore. All you are doing is being obedient, and that really lifts the burden and the worry of people’s opinions.”

When asked about the inspiration for her hit song “Rise Up” she replied, “You know, I pray about everything, and this song was no different. So it was kind of like, ‘God what do you want to talk about today?’”

And when asked how she connects with her audiences on stage, she said, “My band and I pray every time before we go on stage, that “His will is done.” Really, my desire is to communicate how powerful and how life-changing the love of Christ is. Without knowing Christ, you don’t know your potential—how big you really are, how powerful you really are. And I talk about being vulnerable, because you can’t be at His feet without being vulnerable.”
Her name is Andra Day.

Of course, the original page included an invitation to faith in Jesus but I edited that part out because that’s not my direct objective here. 

My mission here is to point out one more Christian artist to those who feel they must listen to secular pieces in order to get quality music and vocal skills entertaining them. Of course, music done by Christians are not always suitable as praise or worship songs meant for use in church.
As I always say, they are our there, you just have to want to find them.

These were the lyrics that started the search:

The Only Way Out

by Andra Day


If you could look inside my life
And use my eyes, would you pity me?
Would you see the desperate nights
And all the lies that brought me to my knees
I keep thinking that I have to make you fall
The way I fell from your betrayal to bring me peace of mind
I will let you move along, just walk away
And wear a cape like you’re some hero

I can’t hear love cause we’re at war
And revenge is so loud and the drums are so proud
But oh, I’m in a cage and I hear mercy say “I’m here now”
And it’s the only way out
I can’t hear love cause we’re at war
But revenge is so loud and the drums are so proud
But I’m still in a cage and I hear mercy say now
It’s the only way out
[Verse 2]
I used to hear my father say, “Counterplay ends in defeat”
And I said I’d never be that way
Tried to make you pay cause it would cost me
But you owe me so much more than what you gave to this
I guess every story twists
People tell me let it go, oh, and forget

I can’t hear love cause we’re at war
And revenge is so loud and the drums are so proud
But oh, I’m in a cage and I hear mercy say “I’m here now”
And it’s the only way out
I can’t hear love cause we’re at war
But revenge is so loud and the drums are so proud
But I’m still in a cage and I hear mercy say now
It’s the only way

Mercy’s the only way out
Mercy gave me my way out

You might want to check her out for yourself, just thought to let you know.

Ladies First?

Q: Must my wife always come first … if I have to choose between wife and purpose.

A: Theoretically and rhetorically, we will magnify our purpose above everything and we will sound and look very spiritual. Is this really correct? 

I prefer to consult the word of God on everything as much as I have the understanding so let’s see where purpose and marriage were first mentioned in the Bible.

Gen 1:26 And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

Gen 1:27 So God created man in his [own] image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

Gen 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

Man’s purpose involved dominion, not over the garden but over the whole planet. One physical man could not have done it by himself and God said, it is not good for the man to be all by himself. He cannot multiply all by himself. 1×1 is still 1. So in order to accomplish his purpose, man needed a suitable companion.

My point? Choosing a wife and fulfilling purpose are like hand in glove. They work together to make things work. One chases a thousand, two chase ten thousands. Whatever two of you shall agree on the earth, it shall be done. All it takes is Two, three is optional if you have it. Now before you say two means God and I, read the verse well; God is the one doing the heaven part. You need two human persons on the earth for the earth part.

Then, look at what happened because Adam temporarily lost control of his wife to the enemy. The messed up world you and I live in today is a derailment of the purpose of God for man to dominate the earth. 

Rom 8:19 For the earnest expectation of the creature waiteth for the manifestation of the sons of God.

Rom 8:20 For the creature was made subject to vanity, not willingly, but by reason of him who hath subjected [the same] in hope,

Rom 8:21 Because the creature itself also shall be delivered from the bondage of corruption into the glorious liberty of the children of God.

This is not definitely not what God intended. 

Even if you have come to full awareness of your “gloooorious” purpose in life and you have a crystal clear vision of this purpose, if you pick someone that is wrong for your life, that purpose will also be derailed. 

Bear in mind, no matter what you think is your purpose, you don’t marry purpose, you marry for suitable companionship. The suitable companionship will help fulfill purpose. Do not put the cart before the horse.

With all the foregoing, it makes sense, following the law of first mention, Purpose comes before everything, then the man identifies himself in line with his purpose, then chooses a suitable spouse, then they together fulfill their intertwined purpose.

If you’re already married, you have to realise that you are first a man before you are a man of God. God told me years back, “Of all the callings you will ever have in life, the calling to be a man came first. Therefore prepare yourself to be a good husband and father first before anything else.” So, if you’re not married yet, you have the chance to get it right before you wed.

In case you don’t believe God spoke to me, let’s look at the final authority.

1Tim 3:1 This [is] a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.

1Tim 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;

1Tim 3:3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;

1Tim 3:4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;

1Tim 3:5 ( For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)

I would think it is obvious that God’s wisdom is that you put your house in order before trying to put your purpose on it. 

Identify your purpose and commit to it in all you do, including the selection of a spouse. Don’t select just any woman that suits your fancy and try to get her to comply or conform to your vision which she didn’t previously know neither should you now drop her in the name of “putting purpose first”. 

Put your wife first, with your purpose clear in your mind. In order words, select a woman for a companion who will, together with you, put God’s purpose for your lives first.

The caveat to this is that if God has called you to be celibate. In that case, you have no wife matter to even consider.

PS: Note that we are talking about wife, not girlfriend. They do not have the same weight of consideration in this matter.